The working
- On a clear evening, ideally near a full moon, sit where you can see the moon or a window.
- Write on paper the good bonds you hope for: a partner, but also friends, work and family ties, since en-musubi means all good connections.
- Tie one end of the red thread loosely around your little finger (or ankle, in the older Chinese telling) and hold the other end toward the moon or the open window.
- Say thanks for the bonds you already have, then ask that the right person find their way to you in their own time.
- Untie the thread, wrap it around the folded paper, and put both in the envelope.
- Keep it in a drawer or carry it. If you visit a shrine or temple later, you may leave thanks there in the way that place asks.
Take care: Tie the thread loosely and never sleep with it around a finger or ankle. At real shrines and temples, follow posted etiquette and do not take or move offerings.